Days like today

Wow, I so cherish days like today. When I am light hearted and not wearing a coat of heaviness. To spend the day that everything makes me smile and I know all is right in my place today.  These days when I can laugh even to the point that I crack me up. I so appreciate these days so very much. To spend the day with my friend that loves the simple things but it is very obvious that her life is so rich and so full of Christ that it puts life in perspective. Sometimes I do get out of sync, because of life, just like everyone else. But then God gives me what I need even when I don't know I need it. But I love at the end of the day when I can look at Jackson and say honey, I have had a good day and I can tell by the way he looks at me and gives me that sweet smile and says "I am happy you have a good day."  Then that makes my day even better because I know that Jack is really happy for me and understands what a good day means.  It is one of those days where it isn't a big thing, it is just lots of little things. Little things that string together to make a good day.  I have already thanked God many times today for this day. I am thankful that I recognize good days. My wish for you is that you realize, I mean really realize that you have had good day. I pray that you will not let your bad days overshadow your good days. I pray that no matter what has happened to you yesterday, today or tomorrow, that you do not live in defeat. That you understand that God wants us to have a abundant life. A life full of God, family, friends and a life filled with love and laughter.  I pray that you can find a blessing or several blessings in your circumstance.  No matter if the circumstance is good or the circumstance is bad. I love to always remember that there may be pain in the night but joy comes in the morning. Be blessed my friends and may the sunshine on your face tomorrow and all the days to follow:)

Always changing while God reminds the same

This week Jack and I have done lots of reading for our lent lessons.  As I have been reading it has dawned on me that even though this world is always changing, God remains the same. Our life has changed so very much. Marriages, children, loss of parents, loss of children, gain of grandchildren. Change of jobs, change of states and aging parents. I believe that pretty much sums up most of our lives in at least some of the things I have mention.  But as I read about God and what he wants for us is never changing. He desires a abundant life for us but for some reason we let life circumstance get in the way of a abundant life. Even the way I have thought about a abundant life has changed. When I was younger and before life really happened, I thought an abundant life meant having money, a nice house, be successful at work. My how I have changed. It went from having money to having enough of what God has given us. Not holding on so tightly to STUFF. From having a nice house to having a home full of God, love and laughter. I am thankful that I believe we have had that home for a really long time and a house is just shell. The home is what counts. Beings successful in the eyes of the world is nothing in comparison of being successful in the eyes of God. There is no doubt that life is going to change. We are going to loose family and friends. We are even going to loose family and friends that are still here on earth. I always have to remind myself to keep my eyes on God.  I will be honest, I still get sad, I will always miss the loved ones that have already went on to heaven.  But I know that God has this.  That he still wants me to have an abundant life.  Even when I don't see abundance, I feel abundance.  A God that keeps on giving. I lost my momma 15 years ago today, but my very best friend Pam got to give her a kiss for me as they loaded her in the ambulance.  I got to spend the whole Saturday with her the week before she passed away. Even though we ended up in the emergency room, I got to lay next to her on the small hospital bed and she spoke of things that I never knew before that night. I got to hold her hand until she fell asleep that night at the hospital. So many things that God allowed me to do.  What more could I ask for. It has made me remember that in the times of distressed or heartbreaking circumstance, if we keep our faith eyes open, God will give us what we need. A abundant life with a promise of a everlasting life. Everything changes but God remains the same.

The relentless Child

You know the child that cannot let go of something. When they ask question after question and still you don't have the right answer for them.  Well that has been me lately. The relentless child of God, is who I am. Even though I don't think I will get the answers I want or even the answers I don't want. I still ask.  This is what I think of when I can't sleep at night. It starts out simple enough, I wake up and most of the time when I wake up in the night I have the most deepest, heart wrenching conversations with God. When it is dark and everything is still, I ask God what Ej is doing. I thank God for giving me such an amazing son and thank God for my sweet daughter. But then the relentless child comes out and I have ask again..Why God? Why Ej? Why was it his time? Why did you give me such a great son and take him home so soon.  Why was Ej in North Carolina? Was that for him God? Or was that for his dad and me?  Am I missing something God in the whole story? Is it something I did? Is it something I didn't do? Was you protecting him God?  Why was Ej smiling that amazing smile? What did he see God. Did he see his grandma Lockaby or did he see his grandma Zona?  Was he afraid God? Did he look for me or did he know that I was not there ? Yes and that is only a small list of questions that I ask all the time. But then I think this my questions does not surprise God, he knows what I am going to ask even before the question crosses my lips. God knew this loss would change Jack and I forever. God knows that when Ansley gets a little bit sick or when Carson goes hunting or when Kade gets croup that my heart sinks. God knows all of this and yet he still listen to his relentless child. Sometimes we cannot understand and I would imagine that is where his word comes in that says For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:9   That answer is the answer I always get, and God knows that I will ask again and again. God knows that I am his relentless child and that is okay with him and for that I am thankful. I know that I ask a lot of questions God but you also know that I am truly thankful for all that I have been given. I am thankful for those conversation in the middle of the night when the world is asleep and it is only You and I.....love your relentless child

Time in a bottle

Today is such a special day in the Glenn/Whitis family. Today Ansley Jay will be one year old already. One thing for sure God sure sent us more than a grand daughter, he sent us life once again.  We are so grateful for our grandchildren.  Carson the oldest is almost 14 and I think he remembers Ej the most. He is quiet about it but sometimes he just pops out a memory of Ej.  Kade our almost thirteen year old reminds me of Ej, because he has that all giving heart and he is laid back and loves Ej's style of clothes, as a matter of fact he picked out several last time he was over, mostly vintage tee's.  Then along came Ansley Jay (aka sassy). Her momma always called Ej by the name of Jay.
So that is where she got the name Jay. So blessed that Carson and Kade got to actual hang out with Ej but sad because they know what they are missing in a Uncle.  So blessed for Ansley because even though she did not know Ej earthly, my friend Diane reminded me that maybe she knew him before she got here. That sounds impossible for most, but that is not impossible for God.
One year old today is what Ansley Jay is. I thought of the song if I could keep time in a bottle.  But the reality is that time is just kept somewhere in our head. That is not the reality. God gave us time and that time may be long, may be short or may be somewhere in the middle. One thing I can promise is that it is not enough time. So today we will live in the moment. We will celebrate our baby girl. We have and will continue to thank God for our precious sassy. We thank God for all that he has given us. Our children and our grandchildren. Have a great day with your loved ones today because there is no such thing as time in a bottle. Happy Birthday beautiful, smart, and sassy, our wonderful gift from God.  Be all that God wants you to be. 

The missing part of my soul during holidays

This time of year floods my mind, my heart, and my soul.  So many emotions from the very high to the very low.  I know part of it is reflection of what will never be again and part of is just so much thankfulness of God and his plan.  The plan that I don't get sometimes but I know in my heart it is a beautiful, marvelous plan that is so far from what I can capture in my mind.  I am thankful of so many things but in my soul, I will be honest it is a sadness that sometimes just makes my eyes flood with tears and loneliness that would stop me in my tracks if not for God.  This time of year I really have to cling to him.  I have to be faithful in believing his promises and intentional about my thankfulness. 
The sadness isn't just about Ej not being here, even though I am sure that it is a big part of it.  I am sad for the ones that have never had anyone to make them feel loved and cherished.  The ones that are alone everyday and holidays just intensifies that loneliness a million times over.
To be quiet honest I believe that even on my most joyous holidays I have had that sadness in my soul at the holidays, but I don't think I knew what is was.  I know that I have been blessed with much more then I could ever imagine or even deserved.  I believe that God knows that loneliness with drive me to help others during the holidays.  To not be a commercial Christmas but to be a Christ Christmas.  To smile, to love, to be thankful to show someone that no matter the circumstance that they are cherish and loved.  Cherished and loved by God.  The one that we want to be cherished and loved by.  My prayer is that even if it is just one person, that I touch this holiday that I touch them with the light of God.  I long for the missing part of me to be filled here on earth like it will be in heaven.  I believe that God wants us to have that heavenly realm here on earth.  That all of us walk in the Joy of the Lord.  The joy of the Lord has nothing to do with our circumstance but everything to do with who God is..  Be kind this holiday season...Be Christ like....Meet someone at the well and I will do the same...Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas to all of you.  My beautiful friends and family...You are loved:)

It is just the little things

This morning at church as people was coming into the sanctuary, Jack and I had already got seated.  I looked over and started to say something Jack when I seen him intently starring at someone or something and I knew it was big. So as my eyes moved to the direction of what he was starring I saw our associate pastor standing and talking to his son. But at that very moment Dennis (the associate pastor put his hands around his sons collar and fixed his collar.  At that moment Jack did not have to say anything I already felt his pain.  It is always there but there is some moments, especially the little things that are hard.  I knew at that moment Jack wanted to fix Ej's collar but he could not and at that moment I was heartbroken for us.  I was heartbroken for Jack for not having Ej and I was heartbroken for me for not having my husband and my son to watch them together.  As church started and the praise band got up to play and I sat there watching Josh (the associate pastor's son) play the guitar (which is what Ej played)  I could not help but think it is the small things in life that hit you like a ton of bricks.  It is the small things in life that has the greatest impact.  Yesterday on our way home with the grand sons our oldest grand son started talking to siri on his I phone. He had me and grandpa laughing so hard. And I know that is something that Jack and I will remember for all our life.  Anyway it dawned on me in church that must be how God is with us. That it is not the big grand things that we do (because that is usually for our gratification) but the small things.  The things like saying thank you God for who you are.  To make God just rare back and laugh at us. Even though sometimes I am really bad about wanting so badly to understand, I read his word and it says his ways are not our ways.  Or our ways are not his ways.  But even when it is hard and it makes me cry for the reminder of the day I am thankful for all the little things that we got to share with Ej.  Because all those little things has gave us so much joy. Even as hard as it was to watch Dennis and Josh, we are so thankful for the love between a father and son. It's just the little things that catch us off guard and reminds us that God is here to catch us when we are falling.  We are so very blessed for all that we have.  We are so very blessed to call our pastor our friend.  Josh plays in the praise band sometimes and we so are so blessed to watch him offer music to God.  Even though Josh does not know it, we have talked about how we love to see him in the praise band.  My hope is that Ej is playing in the praise band in heaven and that every now and then God reaches around him and fixes his collar.  After all it is the little things!

Eight years and counting

To say it has been a rough week would be a understatement.  All that runs through this head of mine is my prayer to God that goes like this.  Eight years God, how can it be eight years and how many more years before I see my son.
I grieve so much more then just for Ej.  I grieve the life that use to be mine. I grieve what could have been. I grieve the life that my daughter tiffany had before her mom and dad was consumed with this grief. I grieve the little things like Ej sleeping so soundly that it took a earthquake to wake him up. I just flat out grieve normal because the new normal isn't ever going to be normal.
But with that being said, I am so thankful what God shows me everyday and I often wondering why I missed so much of what God has always shown me. God gave us so very much right up to the day that Ej left to go to North Carolina. He whispered to me to leave work and go home to say good bye to Ej.  He whispered the same thing to Jack, to go home and say good bye to Ej. I know that was God because Ej had went away on several occasions before and not one time did Jack and I leave work to come home and tell him bye. We was absolutely blessed by God to come home and both of us got to kiss him goodbye. And for that I am thankful. Even though at the time I did not put everything together. It was not for a few years that we knew that God knew what we needed. And even last week during bible study with Laura Harris did he show me another something that I was not aware of.  Everyday I know that God will give me something and it may be little but it is bigger then the universe to me. This morning when we got up and was having coffee tears filled my eyes and heart as I thought tomorrow will be the date of the last time I physically seen Ej, here on earth. Jack and I discussed it for a moment and then we thought it would be a good time to do our daily devotional. Todays devotional started like this. As you get out of be in the morning, be aware of my presence with you. You may not be thinking clearly yet but I am. Your early morning thoughts seem to be a little anxious until you get connected with me. That is what my devotional said. Really this stuff is to good to make up. So for that I am thankful. God gave me the best memories and I am thankful for that too.  My very best memory was when Ej and I talked on Saturday night July 1, 2006. We said our I love you's and when I was getting ready to hang up I heard him say MOM MOM.. I put the phone back up to my ear and I said "what is it, son"?  He said have I ever told you that I love you more then anyone in the whole world.  I sort of laughed and said I do you too son!  Again I got a gift from God and I am so thankful I was on the house phone, because if it would of been my cell phone I would have missed those sweet words that otherwise I would of not heard.  Who knew the house phone would be the size of the universe to me!  Just thought I would share today, I always feel better if I can just get down on paper.  Give all your babies one extra hug and kiss today and it wouldn't hurt to let them have ice cream for dinner!